5 easy ways to reconnect with passed loved ones.
As a spiritual medium, I offer myself as a channel to connect others with their lost loved ones. While it’s always lovely to book in a reading and get confirmation that your special people are still around you, I know how important it is to be able to access that connection any time, without going through another person.
Here are five easy ways you can connect with your passed family, friends, and lovers.
Ask for a sign.
After you’ve lost someone very close to you, it’s common to receive some sign—big or small—that they’re still around you. But rather than waiting for that special song to play on the radio, or to hear their name suddenly in a crowded room, it is possible to invoke a sign by setting your intention and simply asking.
To do this, you might start your day by saying something along the lines of, ‘I am open to receive and allow messages to be seen, felt, and heard. I am open. I am allowing. I am ready to receive.’ (I learned this trick from Ashleigh Sakkouri, an energy healer at Students of Life Healing in Lithgow.)
Throughout the day, be receptive to whatever arises. The information might come through your extrasensory perception, but spirit is also adept at projecting messages into the physical world.
At the end of the day, reflect on what occurred and what may have been a sign. You might also like to keep a diary of your signs to help you recognise patterns and interpret their meanings.
Have a dedicated card deck.
If there is someone on the other side that you would like to communicate with regularly, consider buying a special oracle or tarot deck that you will use only to talk to them. This will allow both yourself and the spirit to develop a deep energetic connection to the cards that will allow messages to come forth with ease.
Ideally, choose a deck that you feel drawn to—that reminds you of this person in some way. Ask your loved one a question or for a message, and shuffle the deck until cards fall out. Look at the designs of the cards to interpret the message in a way that’s unique to you, how they relate to one another, and consult the guidebook if it’s a bit ambiguous. You will find that the answer is always just right—exactly what that person would have said if they were still here.
Talk to them.
Yep. This one is pretty simple, but it can also be the hardest at times because of our doubt and self-consciousness getting in the way.
Set aside some time to spend in a private place, where you won’t be interrupted, and simply talk to the person you’re missing as if they’re still there with you. (Spoiler alert: they are.)
If you find it hard to vocalise, this can be done in your head, but I strongly recommend saying the words out loud. It helps to focus your mind on what you’re doing and interrupt any doubtful little voices that may be wreaking havoc in your thoughts. You’ll also find that after the initial push, the words start to flow more easily.
Afterwards, make sure you write down what you discussed and what came through. This practice will put you in a slightly altered state, where it is easier to forget what happened once you return to normal, everyday consciousness.
Write to them.
Another way to keep in contact with your loved ones on the other side, and to process your feelings around their departure, is to write to them. Just like journaling, letter writing creates intimacy and honesty, and is another way to focus your mind on what you’re doing. You might even like to get a diary that you can use just for writing to your special person.
From my personal experience, I know that my spirit guides reply to all my letters—because they’ve shown me that they do. And while I can’t yet read their responses, I know that one day, when we’re on the same side, I will have a big stack of letters waiting for me.
Meditation.
Alright, admittedly, this one falls on the not-so-easy side of the spectrum. Although immediate success is possible, if you’re new to meditation, this is something you will likely have to build up towards, step by step.
Create an atmosphere: Make yourself comfortable in a quiet space where you won’t be interrupted. This can even be a private space in nature, if that’s what you feel drawn to do. You might like to play some Solfeggio healing frequencies—whichever one resonates with you in the moment—light some candles, incense, place some crystals, or even create an altar with photos and objects related to the person you would like to connect with. This will send a clear signal to the universe and to your subconscious on what you’re trying to achieve.
Breathe: As always, close your eyes and settle into your body by taking long, deep breaths until you feel calm and centred.
Become aware of your aura: Feel into your aura surrounding you. Visualise it about arm’s length away (making it bigger or smaller if needed), and make it nice and solid so that it forms a protective barrier that only those with your permission will be able to interact with.
Find your spirit guides: Using your inner eye, look around the room/space you’re in, noticing beams of light where your spirit family are. Find the brightest light, say hello (in your mind is fine) and invite this spirit to step forward. Focus your attention on them, taking in their body, clothes, face, etc.
Ask your question: Say whatever it is that you need to. You might like to ask for guidance or simply let them know how you’re feeling. Pay attention to what comes through, using all of your senses and tuning into your emotional body.
If visualisation is something that doesn’t come naturally to you, start small. You can use your imagination to kickstart your third eye by picturing different people, objects, and scenes. Once you’re doing this successfully, try connecting with your guides once more.
Struggling?
It can take some time for these techniques to feel like second nature, so don’t fret if your first few tries are less than successful.
If you’re following all the steps and still struggling to connect, ask yourself if there’s anything that might be holding you back. A lot of the time, our doubts and the way we were raised can make it difficult to be open to new things.
Grief is another factor that may impact your ability to connect, even when you’ve managed to do so in the past. Consider how you’re coping with your grief in the present moment (it’s normal for this to fluctuate) and whether you need to do more to process this before trying to connect again.
Finally, remember to believe! Faith does not deny doubt; it transcends it.
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